Getting a divorce has a bad rap. Most people associate getting a divorce with conflict, high court fees, litigation, and bad feelings. While this can be true, it doesn’t have to be. In fact, getting a divorce can be an agreeable, if not collaborative, process where both parties work together to reach a divorce settlement. 

If you’re thinking about pursuing divorce mediation, consider the following regarding preparation and tips for success—

What Is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is the process of both parties to a divorce working with a third-party mediator who will facilitate the divorce negotiations. The mediator/facilitator will help to guide the conversation, but isn’t involved in any decision-making. Through divorce mediation, the parties work together to come to an agreement without the intervention of the court and without litigation. 

Tips for Preparing for Divorce Mediation

If you’re getting ready for a divorce mitigation, it’s important to prepare accordingly. Some tips for preparing for divorce mediation include:

  • Plan on multiple sessions. As you think about the logistics of your divorce mediation, it’s important to consider that your divorce settlement likely won’t be reached within a single session. Instead, it is likely that you and your spouse may need to consult with the mediator on multiple occasions in order to reach an agreement that works for both parties. 
  • Get your documents ready. As part of the divorce mediation process, you should be prepared to disclose financial records and other documents requested. This is a standard part of all divorces, regardless of whether you are pursuing mediation or a more contentious divorce process. 
  • Know what you want—and what you’re willing to give up. As you enter the mediation process, it’s very important to have a clear understanding of what you want to get out of the divorce settlement, and where you’re willing to compromise. Remember, the purpose of mediation is not to win on every front, but instead to reach a compromise that is agreeable to all parties. 
  • Put yourself in the right mindset. Negotiating with your ex may be no easy feat, so it’s important to put yourself in the right mindset for mediation. Remember to stay calm, respectful, and even empathetic. You can advocate for yourself while also remaining cordial. 

Why Is it Important to Hire an Attorney During Mediation?

Many people think that if they are avoiding litigation, they don’t need an attorney to represent them during divorce. However, even when things are amicable, it’s important to have legal representation. You will always want to have a settlement reviewed before it’s finalized, and having an attorney can be helpful in protecting your rights and helping you understand the consequences of certain outcomes, such as tax consequences. 

Call Attorney Heather M. Ward Today

At the Law Office of Heather M. Ward, our experienced Massachusetts divorce attorney has experience representing clients during divorce, including mediated divorces, collaborative divorces, and divorces involving litigation. To learn more, request a consultation online or by calling (617) 903-8955.