Getting a divorce is never an easy thing. But one thing that can undoubtedly make it more complex is when the person from whom you’re divorcing makes the process even more difficult. If you’re divorcing a narcissist, working with a skilled attorney could help. To learn more, call the Law Office of Heather M. Ward directly today. 

What Is Narcissism?

Narcissism refers to a personality disorder in which people have a very high sense of their own importance—to the point where it is unrealistic and potentially irrational. Having such a personality disorder can make a person very difficult to be around, and can lead to troubles with relationships and at work. Those who have narcissistic personality disorder might exhibit symptoms such as:

  • Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, beauty, etc.
  • Taking advantage of others 
  • Behaving in an arrogant and braggadocious way
  • Aggrandizing achievements
  • Insisting on having the best of everything

Things to Consider When Divorcing a Narcissist

Being married to a narcissist can be quite difficult, and may indeed be one of the reasons that a partner may choose to seek a divorce. That being said, if being married to a narcissist is hard, getting a divorce can be even more challenging! Some things to consider when divorcing a narcissist include:

  • Property division. When it comes to dividing property, a narcissist may be extremely demanding and insist on having it all or the best. This can make reaching a compromise on equitable division very challenging. 
  • Child custody. Trying to strike a fair arrangement related to custody of shared children in a divorce is always challenging, and a narcissist may let their own sense of self-importance cloud their vision and the best interests of the child. 
  • Alimony. Like property division, alimony can be a highly contentious issue in a divorce with a narcissist. Your ex may be outraged by the idea of having to pay alimony, or may be unfair in the amount of alimony they request. 
  • General process. Unfortunately, the general process of divorcing a narcissist may be tainted with manipulative rage, tactics of delay or obstruction, and severe challenges in reaching a compromise. 

Tips for Navigating the Divorce Process

While divorcing a narcissist can be difficult, there are tips and tactics to employ that can help to ease the process. These include:

  • Hire an attorney. Probably the most important thing to do when getting a divorce—whether from a narcissist or otherwise—is to hire an attorney. An attorney will protect your rights throughout the process, advocate for you, help you understand the law, and do everything possible to expedite the process.
  • Maintain your cool. Getting a divorce is such an emotional process, and you may experience many feelings throughout divorce, ranging from sadness to fear to anxiety about the future to rage and more. One of the most important things that you do is to stay even-tempered in your interactions and to let your attorney do the talking if you can’t trust yourself to remain calm. Narcissists thrive on conflict!
  • Put your children first. Whatever feelings you have about your ex, remember that your children are of the utmost importance. Fighting and refusing to let your children see your ex will only hurt your children. 

How a Family and Divorce Lawyer Can Help 

A family and divorce lawyer can aid you throughout one of the most difficult times in your life. To get started with Attorney Heather M. Ward, call today at (617) 903-8955.